Time For Learning

Time For LearningWhether you want to start some new activity or change something in your life you will need time. Nowadays something like 12 hours of our precious days are dedicated to work from the wake-up to the time necessary to return at home from the workplace. We don’t have time for learning something new, time for our friends and families and time for us. We are so tired that most of the times the week-ends and the evenings are dedicated to doing nothing. When we don’t have time for learning or simply time for us, our life is reduced merely to our work.

Of 24 hours 10/11 are for work, 6/7 or in fortunate cases 8 are for sleeping and this leaves us with only 5 hours where we have to take a shower, eat, wash dishes etc. to me this sounds like a nightmare, specially if is a life-long one. So how can we take time for us in this situation? Continue reading

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How Develop Concentration

Hi and welcome again on daily mindfulness.

Today, specially with internet and technology, where anything is just one click away, we are less incline to a good, old school and pure, concentration. We are now in a world that demands quickness and velocity in everything, our boss, our clients, our kids etc. Faster, faster, faster.

With such a haste, disattention and sloppy results are frequents. So we need to slow things down and learn how to focus properly. If we are able to perform the right concentration any work can be done well and, if you ask me even faster, because you reduce the probability of doing the same thing twice. So to find concentration try some of this tips:

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How To Stop Being Too Sensitive And Take Things Too Personally

and stay coolIn our daily routine we usually have to cooperate and get along with other people, co-workers, clients or at home with our family. In normal relationships we cannot control what others say or do and sometimes actions or words from other people can offend our sensibility and start arguments or quarrels out of nothing.

Sometimes we just can’t avoid a discussion but in the majority of cases we can manage to maintain our patience and just let go insults, how can we do that if we can’t control other people actions? We cannot dominate or control other people but we can manage our reactions, the point is not in transform the world around you so that fits your desire but to transform yourself to live in harmony in almost any situations. So here some advice to manage your reaction when someone try to offend you:

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What Is Detachment?

detachment and freedomWelcome on daily mindfulness, today I want to take few words for explore “detachment”.

Detachment is one of the most misunderstood word in our language. It seems a bad word for describing the behavior of people without heart or robots, they can do everything without emotion, just detached. But that’s not detachment.

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The Individual Point Of View

The Individual Point Of ViewWhen we talk to someone, whether we talk about some movie or our experience in life we should know and notice that everything is subjective to our point of view. It seems that when we talk to others we need to convince them that we are right at all costs, this is a ego trick that anyone does and since that few people are actually able to truly accept the opinions of others ( you don’t have to necessary change your but just accept that other people can have different opinions) we cause useless friction even in a discussion among friends.

If we understand that even if we all seems the same and we all have similar experiences we walk on different paths, we can appreciate diversity instead of condemn everything that is not our point of view.

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Miyamoto Musashi’s Dokkòdò

Welcome on daily mindfulness. Long post today on one of the most famous figures in the japan history, Musashi Miyamoto.

Mushashi Miyamoto (1584 – 1645) was a legendary swordsman and ronin in japan, he is the most famous character in the japanese history and has several novels and even a comic book dedicated to his life and his path toward illumination, from a ferocious warrior to a enlightened being. He wrote, late in his life, the book of five rings and the Dokkòdò (which can be translated as “ the path to be followed alone” ), 21 rules of life. Although they are rough rules for a quite frugal lifestyle (especially compared to our times), these inspirational reading is still perfect for today’s world.

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Can I Meditate? Approach Meditation For Beginners

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Meditation for beginners

Welcome on daily mindfulness. The ancient practice of meditation is around from millenia. Oftentimes we here about meditation in the movies or in tv and (mostly in the west) we relegate meditation as a fascinating but strange thing, we westerns are usually more active and well…whats the point in being sit for hours doing nothing? Our approach is always active and so meditation often remains unexplored but like everything else when we approach things we have to study, so is meditation for beginners? The answer is yes! Remember that everyone is a beginner in some point or another.

We humans are a funny race, we like to talk and talk and talk often without take action on those words. We like to dream a better life but until we have to do something in that regard, right? If we want happiness we should and must work for it and meditation isn’t a exception. Many times people like to pretend to do meditation, they sit for minutes and they think at their problems or personal business, that’s not meditation. So to approach an acient art like meditation we should first understand what is meditation.

Research. The first thing when we approach something new is always a good old fashion research and your quest on meditation for beginners make no exception on that. Use everything you can use for your research: a good friend that know something about meditation, the internet, your book store. As I told before, meditation is around from millenia so there is quite a room for disinformation and misunderstanding. If you tell something to your friend and that friend tells that thing to someone else you can be sure that the words are different and sometimes even the meaning! Imagine what kind of mess can happen in 5000 years. A lot. So the first thing to do is to research a lot and understand that meditation have thousand of techniques and thousand of schools, that’s not only a cultural factor (example zen is different from tibetan meditation and so on) but because meditation must be a personal thing. Is like a good outfit made just for you. The technique that works for you may not be the technique that works for me. The purpose is the same, find your center and reaching happiness, but the road may differ. So if you’re really intrested in meditation you must spend a good amount of time in reading and searching. There are a thousand of masters or experts (or so called, so watch yourself) and thousand of books and websites. When I started this path I’ve spent months before starting, let’s say before the firsts attempt, and then months again before something happens and before I could taste the benefits of meditation, so with that in mind don’t be discouraged, to some people it takes years and to someone else it takes days.Take it easy and start searching from multiple sources, when you find the right one you will know it.

Meditation for beginners is not a simple topic and should be approached with attention. When you start your journey take a good amount of energy with you for proper reading and studying, take it easy and do something day by day so that you can keep your focus. Remember it takes time.

Take your time.

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Rise And Shine! 3 Easy Tips For A Good Awakening

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Welcome on daily mindfulness. After How to sleep well we can move to the next moment of our days, the waking-up process!

The beginning of a new day, especially a work-day, should make a good transition between the quiet of the night and the craziness of the day. If we learn to wake-up properly we will indeed have more energy and good humor for the entire day that wait for us. I found out that setting up a good morning routine helps me to get off my bed without moaning too much, plus is another time of the day that I enjoy (yes even the monday mornings). Here some suggestion and tricks for you to enjoy the wake-up:

Alarm 15 minutes earlier. This is relative. Find out how much time do you need to completely wake up after your sleep and set that exact time before your usual alarm time. This little tricks makes the difference between waking up like a zombies or get off the bed, well I’m not saying jumping but surely with more power. For the time you chose before your usual alarm just lay down in the bed and in the darkness of your room and relax, then when is time to get off the bed you will feel more incline to do that.

Silence. If you’re living alone or at least with no kids try to stay in silence for at least an hour after your awakening. No tv, no radio, no music. Silence let you relax and gently take you from the quiet of your bedroom to the chaos of the society. If you start your day with disturbing noises or excessive chattering is like taking a bucket of cold water in your face, even if you’re used to that, when you will try silence you will notice the difference. Off course while you are in silence you can do things like breakfast or some reading you don’t need to sit down in silence and watching the wall, just enjoy the quiet and do your things.

Eat your breakfast slowly. Sleeping well is crucial for the day-battle but breakfast is essential for your energy and most of the times you have to wait until lunch to eat again, so your breakfast need to be substantial. We always hear that breakfast is the “most important meal of the day”, I agree but if you rush the food down your throat you make yourself a great disservice. Enjoy every bite of your breakfast. Eat slowly, take your time and taste all the food you eat, this is easy whether you’re alone or with your family. Eat slowly and well.

All the above tips become useless if you don’t manage to have the amount of time for them. So make space for it, and see the difference. You can go to bed earlier or wake up earlier. If you want to take the day right you need a good sleep and a good awakening. The awakening process is often understimated but it’s a big help for our vigour and if we start the day right we will also have more patience and calmness for ourselves and in the relationships with others so try it out

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Four Noble Truths, The Way Out Of Suffering

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Hi friends, today I will close the four noble truths cycle, click here to read the first noble truth, the second noble truth and the third noble truth.

The fourth noble truth is the path that leads us out of suffering. Through the practice of sensitivity, meditation and wisdom we will achieve permanent happiness. With moral sensitivity we enhance our empathy and we can improve our patience and attitude towards people, plus we will lose our egocentric tendency. With the practice of meditation we can improve our mindfulness and be always aware and in control of ourselves and so we let wisdom grow in us. Only when we lose our ego we can achieve total freedom. Our ego prevents us to connect directly with the others, we build it like a shield to defend ourselves, like an armor, the fact is that the same armor that protects us can prevents us from breathing freely. In buddhism the fourth noble truth shows how to get out of suffering through the practice of the eightfold noble path. This is the eightfold noble path:

1- Right understanding. Right understanding refers to the middle way. We must understand and find a middle way between extremes in our life. Balance is the key in everything, in our reaction towards other people, in our general attitude and even in our diet. For example if we eat to much we get fat, if we eat poorly we will get weakness and illness, so you can easily see how balance is important.

2- Right Thought. The right thought practice allows us to be a witness of ourselves and what happens to us. We must pay attention to emotions and thoughts to avoid the development of negative reactions. In other words we must keep our attention on avoiding that emotions take over and possess us. We absolutely don’t need to repress those emotion (this way they will never get out of our system) but we need to “watch” them without let them dominate our person, gradually with this process they will disappear. When we get angry for example instead of burst into a volcano of rage we can just notice that anger is coming, using our mindfulness, and without let anger to control our actions and words. This is a hard process but like everything else with practice we can achieve anything.

3-Right Speech means to pay attention to what we say, how we use our language and our ability to communicate with others. Normally we aren’t even aware of our reactions and actions (specifically in language) and so we indulge in bad attitude, gossip and insults. If we manage to become aware of our speaking we will naturally avoid aggressiveness and useless chattering.

4- Right Action is how we act, bad or good toward ourselves and others, specifically with our bodies. Our actions, like our words, directly influence people arounds us, if we pay crescent attention to our actions we will be less incline to harm others in any way.

5- Right livelihood. There is nothing wrong in making money or protect the persons we love, our families and friends. We live (like the buddha at his times) in a society based on exchange of money. So to eat and sleep properly, to live, we need a occupation. This occupation of ours should not be aggressive or harmful in any way toward people or other living beings. Making money is good, what is bad is a mind possessed by money.

6- Right effort. Right effort means to pay attention at the traps of attachment, ignorance and aversion. We have instincts and we are used to certain mechanisms. At the beginning of this path we need to practice with effort, pay constant attention to not fall again in previous mistakes. It’s like when we learn to drive a car, someone just have more basic ability than someone else but when driving is a new thing we need to pay more attention to achieve the state of calm driving, to get used to driving. So like anything else when we want to evolve and improve ourselves and our happiness we need to focus more. This extra-focus is the right effort.

7- Right mindfulness. Mindfulness is the one thing that can help us in being aware of our thoughts, words and actions. If we learn to use mindfulness constantly, whatever we experience, we become more aware and in control of our reaction and of how our mind works under any circumstance.

8- Right concentration is simply to be focused. We must pay attentions to avoid distractions especially in meditation we should be able to stay “focused” without letting any sound or situation to break our focus.

So this ancient wisdom seems very actual to me. We can take those teachings and melt them in our everyday life and gradually get better. How use them is up to use, but if you ask me the best way is to avoid any stress and work step by step in calmness and tranquility.

Thank you for reading and stay tuned for more ancient wisdom.

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Third noble Truth, The Cessation Of Suffering

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Third noble truth

Hi friends, here again with the third follow-up on the four noble truths. After the truth of suffering and the origin of suffering I will explore today the third noble truth, the cessation of suffering. Thanks everyone for reading and here we go:

The Cessation Of Suffering

Now that we know what is suffering and where it grows we can take action and change for good our life. Just by exploring your inner mechanism you will gain more and more control over yourself, you will be a “witness” thanks to your mindfulness and before of taking any action you will put yourself under a scope. Your scope, the scope of your mindfulness. Now that you know what makes you suffer you will be more vigilant in your action toward yourself and others. Your mind gradually (faster or slower here is a relative concept and it doesn’t matter, you don’t have to try hard, just go with the flow) becomes more tranquil and relaxed, you will handle better the delusion after a broken expectation and in the end you will not even use expectation to deal with the world, you will be here, living in the present. Your entire person becomes far more calm and peace gradually becomes your nature even under pressure. You will be less extreme in your modus operandi and you can easily understand how this help an individual in the everyday life. Your entire LIFESTYLE changes completely and for the best. Any relationship you have with others will be far less problematic, you will notice when a emotion is about to take over you and you can decide to let the emotion rule you or just to watch that emotion gradually disappear. Anger, depression and frustration will disappear gradually from your life. One of the thing that you have to keep an eye on is still desire. If you desire calm and peace they hardly show their faces because a desire put you under a thin pressure. So watch yourself with mindfulness and just live your life, gradually you will be better. We should not rush this process because in doing that we just change a mundane desire to another desire, less mundane and far noble, ok, but still…a desire.

Ignorance, attraction and aversion are the three roots of delusion and all those three will lose their grasp on you. When a human being is no longer under their influence every situation becomes a good situation. In other words “paradise” isn’t a geographic place, instead when you get free from ignorance attraction and aversion you will bring and be in paradise anywhere you go and in every situation.

Stay tuned for the fourth noble truth!

 

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